How do you leave your job when your boss doesn’t want to let you? And throws more money than you’ve ever seen at you to get you to stay?
I still want to go. I want to say yes and take the money and pay off all my debt (sans mortgage) in a year and a half, but the environment was killing my spirit and making me depressed and angry all the time. I feel like shit for wanting the money, and I feel like shit for turning the place on it’s ear to replace me. I feel like shit for wanting to turn down the money, because yes, I am greedy and I want to be out of debt so badly it hurts.
How do I say so without sounding like a retard for turning down my current boss’ offer, and in a way that she’ll actually listen to? Nothing I said today seemed to make her think I would turn down her offer and leave. Despite saying things like “At this time, I want to move my career in [other job]’s direction”. “I don’t think there’s anything you can change to get me to stay.”, etc. She wouldn’t even let the meeting end until I agreed to at least discuss it with Josh.
I never in my life expected such an… almost violent counter-offer. I’m very bad at that sort of meeting, apparently. 🙁
(I can bring the counter-offer to the attention of my new boss – but she’s away of course, and even then the new position is unionized, so I doubt there’s any wiggle room in the salary or anything because it’s all under contract)
The counter offer is only proof that they always knew they were under-paying you. They’ve been lowballing you for a few years now, and you were none the wiser. Now that you’ve realized your worth, they’re willing to play nice? How about no.
You need to go in with a firm hand. I wanted to email you a copy of my gold plated ‘resignation letter’, which is basically a breakup note. However I’m out of town and don’t have access to it.
What you need to tell your old boss (because you’re not going back) is that you appreciate all she’s done for you in the past, however you need to advance on your own, as it represents a positive move for your future. You wish the company a prosperous future without you, and hope that they respect your decision.
Of course the other option, is to play hard-hard ball.
Wise man say, someone desperate enough to pay $XXX is most certainly willing to pay $XXX + 100.
Make a 3rd offer. More than more you’ve ever seen. If she accepts, swallow your pride and pay off that debt. At the end of the day, NO one likes their job. No one.
If she says you’re being unrealistic, tell her “No I’m not. You need me and I have options.” All’s fair in love, war and business.
Seriously!
It’s enough to make me wish I had tried to quit last year!
I didn’t know they were willing to do something like this, though. I’m not the type who threatens to quit unless I have a backup plan (aka another job waiting for me) so I never thought about it. Then I just got so fed up I went out and found a new job (though it’s taken me since November to find it, since it had to be local and in my field, as I didn’t want to leave for just any random job), and now all of a sudden I’m valuable?
I had already signed with the new company when the counter-offer was made, though, otherwise I probably would have considered sticking it out for another year or so. But there was zero indication that my current company would ever give me more money, or change things about my job. Zero.